The internet is packed with cool stuff for kids, but it also comes with some not-so-great things. We’re talking about things like cyberbullying, endless late night scrolling sessions, and the occasional shady stranger lurking in comment sections. Yes, the internet can be awesome - but it can also impact children’s mental health if we're not careful. That’s why having regular chats about online safety is super important. 

Don’t worry - this isn’t about giving boring lectures that make your kids do eye rolls. We’re here to help you start real, honest conversations that stick. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent, or the cool aunt/uncle, here’s your friendly guide to talking to kids about staying safe online (without sounding like a broken record).

Talking about online safety doesn’t have to feel like a formal meeting where you’re both sitting stiffly at the dining table. Keep it casual! The goal is to encourage open, honest discussions about your child’s digital life Think of it like chatting about their day at school—just with a little “internet twist.”

Ask questions like:

• “What’s the funniest thing you saw online today?”
• “Who do you play with on that game? Are they friends from school or new people you met?”
• “What’s your favourite app right now? Show me how it works!”

These questions aren’t just small talk—they’re clever conversation starters. They help you understand what your kids are doing online without making them feel like they’re being interrogated. The key? Create a safe space where they know they can tell you anything without getting in trouble.

And if they do open up about something that worries you (like someone being mean online), try not to react with shock or go straight into “fix-it” mode. Keep your cool, listen first, and then figure out the next steps together.

Now let’s talk about cyberbullying, because it’s a serious issue that can really mess with a young person’s mental health. It happens when someone uses technology—texts, social media, games, you name it—to harass, threaten, or embarrass another person.

Here’s what cyberbullying might involve:

• Nasty comments on posts.
• Spreading rumours through direct messages (DMs).
• Excluding someone from group chats (the modern version of “you can’t sit with us”).
• Sharing embarrassing photos without permission.

Kids don’t always tell adults when they’re being bullied online. That’s why it’s important to look out for signs like:

• Suddenly not wanting to be online - or being too glued to their phone.
• Getting upset after checking messages.
• Withdrawing from friends or activities they used to love.
• Changes in mood, sleep, or school performance.

If you notice anything off, check in with a simple, “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been a bit down lately. Is everything okay? Anything going on online that’s bothering you?”

The emotional impact of cyberbullying can be pretty intense - anxiety, low self-esteem, even depression. But when kids know they can talk to someone who has their back, it can make a world of difference.

If your child is dealing with online nastiness, please don’t panic - there are plenty of ways to take action. Here’s a good four-step plan:

1. Report and block

Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat have tools to report inappropriate content and block users. Teach your child how to do this (bonus points if you practice together).

2. Get expert assistance

​​​​​​​There are some trustworthy UK organisations ready to help:

• Mind UK: Mental health support
• Samaritans (116 123): Someone to talk to, 24/7
• National Bullying Helpline: Advice on dealing with bullies
• The Mix: Support for young people with everything from online drama to mental health

3. Talk to the school

If the bullying involves classmates, have a meeting with your kid’s class teacher and head teacher. They’ve dealt with this before, and will have systems in place to help.

Online safety isn’t just about avoiding the bad stuff—it’s about building healthy habits that make the internet a positive space. Here’s what you can do:

• Set boundaries (but make it a team effort)

​​​​​​​Instead of just declaring, “One hour of screen time only!” try working together to set limits. Ask something like: “What do you think is a good balance between gaming and homework?” When kids feel involved, they’re more likely to stick to the rules.

• Digital detox - not as scary as it sounds

​​​​​​​Suggest screen-free activities like family game nights, outdoor adventures, or even just a tech-free dinner. You might be surprised at how relaxing it is when no one’s sneaking a look at their phone under the table.

• Find the good stuff online

​​​​​​​Not all screen time is doom and gloom. Encourage your kids to explore online spaces that are creative, educational, and uplifting. Think coding games, art tutorials, or cool science videos - hello, DIY volcano experiments!

The bottom line: keep the conversation going

Protecting kids online isn’t a one-and-done chat. It’s an ongoing conversation. The more you talk about it, the more comfortable they’ll feel coming to you when something’s wrong.

So, stay curious, keep listening, and remind your kids (and yourself) that the internet can be an amazing place - just as long as you all know how to navigate it safely.

If you’ve got any online safety conversation tips of your own to share, let’s hear them! Please feel free to share your comments below.